"Ruined orgasm" means stopping stimulation just before ejaculation and letting it out gently. It seems that the refractory period is reduced and you can ejaculate many times. I have delayed ejaculation and am not good at it, so I went to a salon that is rumored to "solve men's problems". They used body powder to increase my sensitivity with a feather touch, and after teasing me with slow strokes, I was allowed to ejaculate gently. However, my erection did not subside, and I was made to ejaculate again and again...